Celebrated musician Wahu Kagwi says she has learnt that her husband, Nameless, puts a lot of emphasis on emotional intelligence as a way of keeping their love fresh and revamped each passing day.
Speaking on K24’s Up-close With Betty on Friday, May 1, Wahu, 40, said Nameless’ push to “become a better human being” has made it easier for him to express his love to her and their two daughters Tumiso Mathenge, 13, and Nyakio Mathenge, 7.
“What the stay-at-home period has taught me about Nameless, is that he is very driven about emotional intelligence and becoming a better human being,” Wahu told the host, Betty Kyallo.
“I really appreciate that aspect of him. His emphasis on emotional intelligence manifests in how he is supportive towards me and the children.”
Nameless, whose real name is David Mathenge, 43, said the stay-at-home period occasioned by the COVID-19 outbreak in Kenya, has enabled him to “reflect on my relationship in detail”.
The Salary star, on his part, said the one month that he and Wahu have spent mostly at home, has revived thoughts of the “good old days” when Wahu would cook for him frequently.
“I remember when we were in university (UoN), she used to cook for me often. Immediately after we got married [on September 10, 2005], she reduced the cooking frequency. However, the last three to four weeks, she has been preparing meals for the family more often. I had missed how she’d cook for me frequently, and I am glad the stay-at-home period has allowed us to go back to the good old days,” said Nameless.
Wahu, on her part, said “on a few occasions”, Nameless has set foot in the kitchen to help her wash utensils.
Nameless, an architect by profession, says the secret of their long-term relationship is “understanding that people are different, and taking time to learn how different your partner is from you and committing to blend the differences in a manner that is helpful to the union”.
“The moment you accept that you guys are different in one way or the other, then things start working out well,” he said.
Nameless, Wahu and their two daughters have been alone in their Nairobi home after they gave their house-help time off.
Nameless revealed that they have been helping their daughters with their studies, with Wahu, a Mathematician by profession, being the teacher on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesdays, whereas Nameless takes over on Thursday, Friday and Saturdays.
The younger daughter, Nyakio, said she prefers being taught by Wahu to Nameless.
“She knows if she does not like mummy school (Wahu’s lessons), she will be in trouble with her mother,” joked Nameless.
Wahu said besides Nameless’ generally good attributes at home, the one that often puts her off, is the way he “spends at least two hours on his phone every day”.
Nameless, in his defense, said he does that to “catch up with his buddies, including friends he made while in university”.
“Sometimes I need to take a break from the girls that I love so much,” he said.