That most relationships are facing the toughest time yet is an understatement. Many people today think that by virtue of wanting to be loved and to belong, they have what it takes to succeed in a relationship.
That could never be so far from reality! Having a strong desire for food isn’t the same as having what it takes to afford it. Having a strong desire to make it in business isn’t the same as having business acumen.
Too many relationships are based on feelings and that’s where the problem starts. Though emotions are an integral part of all relationships, basing decisions and choices on them is an error.
Emotions are as a result of solid and feasible decisions made through sound wisdom and prudence. Emotive motivations tend to have little solid matter that is useful in the building of and the sustenance of lasting relationships.
Whereas many people train hard for their careers and businesses, few ever think of getting some training and coaching in this area that is now threatened by fights, separations and divorce. Lack of knowledge in any area of life will always be equal to failure in that particular area. There is rampant ignorance in matters that touch on family, marriage, children and the whole family fabric as a whole.
To enter into a higher dimension of any aspect of life, one needs somebody who has been a success in that area. Unfortunately, not all psychologists are successful in marriages. They may for that matter, only present you with theories of how relationships should work. The world is full of couples whose relationships and families are quite happy.
These are the best suited in the area of mentorship and training for better results. It takes a successful person to impart the wherewithal of success upon another person. It also takes a good relationship to influence others into good relationships.
We’re hearing too much about broken hearts. And most information out in the market defines what not to do rather than what to do. The problem with information from someone who has failed is that it will manipulate people towards paranoia and dystopia. Couples should choose well-meaning and successful couples to mentor and train them through life.
