Men in Kajiado, most of whom are from the Maasai community, are abandoning their women at home for women from other communities while trying to find out the difference between a circumcised woman and those who have not undergone the cut, K24 Digital has established.
Speaking on anonymity due to the sensitivity of the matter, a man told K24 Digital that the Maasai men are mainly on a mission to sample women in the region’s uprising towns hence the cry that they have left their wives languishing in poverty at homes for the ‘new catches’.
“I am a polygamous man of four wives but since I sampled an urban woman, I have not been able to resist having a concubine in town.
“I can confidently tell you that men from our community (Maasai) whom they say have gone missing from their homes are busy sampling women in these towns. They want to know the difference between uncut and cut women. That’s it,” he said.
Unlike satellite towns of Kiserian, Ongata Rongai, Emali, Sultan, Ngong and Kitengela where sex workers line up in the streets looking for clients, in upcoming towns dominated by natives the practice is still not publicly paraded.
In towns like Mashuuru, Ilbisil and Maili Tisa which have reported increased immorality, the practice is still under wraps where sex workers rent houses as tenants and engage in sex work.
The women’s main targets are local men from the villages who instead spoil the women with money from livestock and land sales in exchange for body pleasure.
This revelation comes after irate women from Ildamat area in Kajiado Central stormed into Duka Moja centre looking for the randy men who they say have become rare at home.
The devastated women cry foul that men are selling livestock and land then flee to town and misuse the resources with concubines to the chagrin of their suffering families back in the rural villages.
Armed with sticks to punish culpable women who are housing their husbands, the women defied the chilly weather to conduct a search in the upcoming town.
However, they were prevailed by security officers who urged them to seek alternative dispute resolution to avert bloody incidences.
“The only time my husband comes home is when there is an incident or a sick family member. Nowadays he only orders for cattle, sheep or goat to be taken to the market where he is for sale. Once he sells, he only buys maize flour and pockets the other money for his leisure use. The level of immorality among our men has reached a notch higher.
“Culturally we women are not supposed to question their whereabouts but we cannot just allow open immorality that is depleting our resources and exposing us to sexually transmitted diseases. Those twilight women in towns are only interested in stealing our children’s resources and we cannot allow it. We will take low into our hands until the matter is addressed,” Tompoi Agnes said.
The women complained that men are no longer interested in fulfilling conjugal rights back at home pointing out something amiss.
” We fear these women are even using charms on our men just to confuse them and mint money from them, “she said.
The main challenge in arresting the immorality issue remains cultural misconceptions where a woman is considered inferior to a man.