Cheating can hurt the person who committed the act of infidelity, but it also breaks trust in partners. Some people believe it’s important to give your partner a second chance, because, if you believe that this relationship can be rebuilt, you will allow them to do so.
If he can show that he’s willing to take responsibility for his actions, then you will feel more secure in the relationship. However, it’s also important to make sure that your partner has the necessary skills to deal with the issues that caused him to break the trust.
If you feel that your partner is going back to his old ways, then you might be experiencing one of the five signs that he will cheat again. Below is a guide to teach you how to tell if he’s going back on his word.
Here’s how to know for sure:
1. He doesn't feel sorry for what you've gone through
A cheating man who cares about your feelings will accept responsibility for his part in your suffering. He'll demonstrate to you his concern for your feelings. Your pain is genuine to him, and he wants to do everything in his power to make it up to you and assist you in healing.
If he won't have an issue with it, if he doesn't comprehend your suffering and how his cheating has altered you then you should be worried. He doesn't understand how hurtful he has been to you, therefore he doesn't see the significance of not doing it again.
Ignoring and rejecting your suffering is a warning sign. If he doesn't see what has to be done, he can't be dedicated to saving your marriage.
2. He didn't truly apologize to you
You can't proceed into a healthy relationship unless the cheater expresses sincere regret for what he did. This is where his emotional intelligence is measured. He'll recognize what he did, sincerely apologize, and offer to make it up to you if he's really in his regret and feels bad about what he did.
It was all about his decisions; you weren't the one who forced him to lie. He is not expressing regret for his conduct if he apologies by stating something like, "I'm sorry that you were hurt." Instead, he is blaming your response.
He will give you a sincere apology, by recognizing what he did, accepting responsibility for his actions, and demonstrating regret if he truly regrets what he did to you. As opposed to a superficial non-apology, saying, “Sorry that I hurt you.”
3. He isn't addressing the issues in your marriage
People who cheat, do so for a variety of reasons, including dissatisfaction with their relationships, dissatisfaction with themselves, or a lack of genuine concern for others.
You likely excused his cheating for a valid reason. Would you have given him another chance if you had believed that he was just a cheating jerk and not someone who had made a mistake?
It's critical to address any personal issues or interpersonal issues that led to adultery after cheating. There is a considerable likelihood that it will take place once more if he doesn't show the willingness and effort to address whatever causes his infidelity. Have you brought up his affair?
His unwillingness to improve your relationship is a warning sign, telling you he either values his ego too much to admit his wrongdoing, or he just doesn’t care enough about what you have.
4. He doesn't mind lying
Lying and cheating often go hand in hand. It's challenging to regain trust after a challenging betrayal like adultery if he's lied to you about other things, if he lied to you in the past before he cheated, and if you continue to catch him being untruthful.
You won't be able to believe him if he consistently lies and it's tough to tell when he's being dishonest. You'll distrust his assurances that he loves you, that he is sorry, that he has changed, and that he won't do it again.
5. He treats dishonesty with a carefree attitude
Some people lack sympathy and don't think cheating is a big deal. If your man doesn't truly mind cheating, he won't think twice about doing it if the opportunity arises.
Examining his prior relationships is the most effective technique to determine if he is a serial cheater. Is he cheating on you for the first time, or has it happened before? It is simple to conclude that he doesn't take adultery seriously if he has cheated in past relationships as well.
To determine whether he is a casual cheater, keep an eye on how he acts around other women. Even if you have reconciled with him following the affair, he may be receptive to having another one if he continues to make advances toward other people.