Gospel singer Ruth Matete opened up about the loss of her late Nigerian husband Beloved John Olakami Apewajoye, lamenting that he didn't want to fight for his life.
Matete lost her husband in a tragic accident on April 11, 2020. He died from injuries sustained after a fire accident at their home.
Matete's late husband was admitted to Kenyatta National Hospital (KNH) for two weeks before he succumbed to fire-related injuries while undergoing treatment.
The 2012 Tusker Project Fame winner was widowed just five months into her marriage.
In a post on social media on November 13, 2022, Matete lamented that she felt her late husband didn't want to fight for his life for the two weeks he was admitted to the hospital before he succumbed to his injuries.
"My daughter’s father died two years ago. While in the ambulance after the accident, he told me he wasn’t gonna make it. I thought it was just fear. So I kept encouraging him that he would be fine
"He told me all he wanted me to do (I felt like it was those Afro-cinema movies). He gave me the name of the baby regardless of the gender. Toluwa is a unisex name. Gave me a message for his sister and brother as well," Matete wrote.
Adding that;
"God gave him two weeks. In those two weeks, each time I went to visit him, he would ask me “Oh! Am still here? “ It’s like he waited for death. I felt like he didn’t fight to live. But anyway, I will never know fully. I don’t know why I am writing all this to be honest. But maybe I am just thinking about my life. My daughter’s life."
Several deaths
Ruth Matete also complained that death has just been shadowing her family, narrating how her mother, her father and herself lost their spouses.
Below is her full post;
My mother died when I was 8 years old. My step father beat her so badly and she was taken to the hospital because of the injuries.
I was still living with her and my step father.
So when she realized that she may not make it out alive, she called my father and asked him to come get me.
I was still very young. So my father just used to come and visit me in the village. Since my mother was still alive, it was better to be with her.
My dad came and took me with him to the city. This is where I have been since then.
My mother later died a few months after I came to Nairobi.
My father was married to another woman here in Nairobi who also later died. (My parents got me out of wedlock and they both got married to different people)
My step father died last year.
My daughter’s father died two years ago.
While in the ambulance after the accident, he told me he wasn’t gonna make it. I thought it was just fear. So I kept encouraging him that he would be fine.
He told me all he wanted me to do (I felt like it was those Afro cinema movies). He gave me the name of the baby regardless of the gender. Toluwa is a unisex name. Gave me a message for his sister and brother as well.
God gave him two weeks. In those two weeks, each time I went to visit him, he would ask me “Oh! Am still here? “
It’s like he waited for death. I felt like he didn’t fight to live. But anyway, I will never know fully.
I don’t know why I am writing all these to be honest. But maybe am just thinking about my life. My daughter’s life. My family pattern when it comes to death. I don’t know.
My father losing my mother. My father losing his wife.
Me losing my husband.
Just a pattern of people losing their spouses 😢
Am I over thinking? In all these, I have been praying fervently to God for long life.
Keep praying for me and my family 🙏🏽
Thank you all for your love and for those who stand with me in prayer even when we have never physically met🙏🏽😊
In September 2022, Ruth Matete indicated that she was ready to remarry.
